what is ♥?

Love has two faces. 

Happiness + sadness = Love

my definition of love ~ process of taming and getting to know one another and never having to say you are sorry

"don't worry if you're single

God is looking at you right now saying : I'm saving this one for someone special."

To those who have being hurt in the process of taming and getting to know one another

Sometimes you have to walk away to prove that you are worth more

Sometimes we must be hurt in order to grow

It's simply because some lesson are best learned through pain

and you will never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have

Despair is always going to give in to hope

Time is medicine

You will forget

Don't be too upset

Once you've lost something

Don't look back, whether it be something or someone

That's how you move forward

It said that the person who hurts someone else remembers the incident for a longer time than the person who was hurt

Whether this is true or not

Being hurt by someone you love doesn't mean 

you have to stop loving

It's one way to learn 

not to give up and keep loving

We will all become stronger through our pain!!

Secrets

There are valid reasons why some people choose NOT TO share certain thing

Sometimes, I keep secrets for a good reason
I dun tell so as to avoid upsetting certain people or to prevent anger and frustration to myself or others

Being secretive can also mean I'm not ready to share a certain part of my life with someone as is often the case when I meet new people and dun wish to reveal too much of myself

But some people feel there should be no secrets for any friendship to form
When I'm ready to let someone into my life
Secrets will be the anchor of our friendship because such sharing shows a high level of trust between me and that persan
It also involves respect


A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything
NO secrets
NO lies


However, if I choose to keep a secret from someone
It could be because I have a negative perception of him/her
Maybe he/she is a gossip
Maybe he/she is manipulative or judge mental

down..

The worst pain is to forget the one you love

You never knew how you light up my life 
when you step into my world
you say you will be around but yet you leave me halfway there

I'll never get over you walking away and now
I'm afraid of changing coz I build my life around you

once a word goes out of your mouth, you can never swallow it again

so be careful of what you say, you won't be able to take it back

Promises mean everything but after they are broken

Sorry means nothing

I thought things could be different just so long as I changed you changed

I thought we could all get along like everything is fine

now only i know we can't always get what we want

sometime even though we search and want something with all our soul
in the end you will only be disappointed by the end result

It does takes a whole lot of courage to ask the right question 

and accept the answer given

is time to face the truth that I will never be with you
*reminder*

Dont't trust too much

Don't love too much

because that too much will hurt you so much

Witch vs Princess

It's not wrong to love someone
But I'm sorry that I dared to love you

The fear grows larger if the love is greater
The despair will be greater if that person is lost
Then you will start thinking about all the ways you could lose that person
All the different things that could happen
With greater fears comes greater doubts

A witch was a princess at one time
A princess's love becomes a fairy tale
and a witch's love becomes a curse

Sometimes people dunno their own feelings
The truth will come out when facing death
The one we really loves will die
The one we loves less will be saved

想通 (9)

有时候活得笨一点才会开心

Some people make your life a little better by walking into it

While other people will make your life a lot better by walking out of it

Pleasing everybody is never a responsibility

If they like you for who you are ...good!

If not, it's their problem not yours

当你意识到花了很长的时间等待

要懂得改变继续等下去的念头

学会在搞错的关键时刻马上终止

就能将损失减到最少

想通 (8)

决口不提爱，并非不爱，而是深爱

总有一个人一直住在心底却消失在生活

回忆，让一个人不能忘记过去

心中不敢说的话才是最想说的话

不太介意这世界多残酷

只愿在感情里也别那么残酷

爱过，所以试着牢记得他曾经的好

放在心中慢慢回味

直觉，是天下不至不可信的东西
可是，人与人相处只能善用直觉
依靠那最靠不得的直觉

想通 (7)

one of the most difficult task in life is removing someone from your life

Some deal with the regretful past forever ...

Some never forget the flamboyant past ...

And some live through the painful memories in the past 

they want to forget ...

The past can only hold us back 

and scare us to make a difference ...

To those who have the same experiance, same feeling ...

The present is more important than our past ...

It's okay to forget about what happened in the past ...

and live a good life now ...

If you hold on to your past ...

You can miss out in the present ...

Please forget about the painful memories in the past 

and get on with your life ...

想通 (6)

只是有时候不想说话

想一个人独处

无关情绪

人生在世

终避免不了伤害人或是被伤害

你虽伤了我

我也伤了别人

算是一报还一报吧？

厌倦了总是过着讨好别人的生活

要是有一天当我决定不再这样生活了

原谅我。。

突然好想你

想念被你疼的感觉

想通 (5)

如果不喜欢，那就去改变

如果改变不了，那就去适应

如果做不到适应，那就只好回避

如果连回避也做不到，那只有放手

但一般的情况是，能干的人会选择改变

懒惰的人会选择适应

懦弱的人选择回避

勇敢的人选择放手

想通 (4)

真真的爱是接受，不是忍受

年轻的时候会想要谈很多次恋爱

但是随着年龄的增长
终于领悟到爱一个人
就算用一辈子的时间还是会嫌不够的
从慢慢地去认识，相处，了解等等

分手了要忘掉，尤其是曾经深爱的人
唯有时间会改变一切
不用强迫自己去忘
忘不掉时，就想一想，哭一哭，也没什么
不要幻想，去删掉他的联系方式
丢掉那些所谓的“ 爱的见证 ”
慢慢来，不知不觉地振作起来了

想通 (3)

I will not let anything taken away from me

我总以为安静地做好自己的事就不会招惹不必要的麻烦。。

可是很多时候，你不去招惹别人，别人也会欺负到你头上。。

你以为忍让就能让事情过去，可是别人就会以为你好欺负

要时时记住，不必，不要，不用当一个烂好人！

当你觉得受到委屈的时候要勇敢说 “  NO ”

别让自己懦弱，也别一味地退让

如果不坚强，软弱给谁看！

想通 (2)

You cannot allow that inner voice to keep bullying you

You will only begin to heal when you let go of past hurts..

Forgive those who have wronged you
and learned to forgive yourself for your mistake

Life is like a show

Only those who enjoys it win

想通 (1)

真的很害怕用了心之后得到的是背叛

People always think that the most painful thing
is losing the one you love

But the truth is,
 losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are speacial too, is equally painful

Dying isn't punishment.

Living in pain is punishment.

some wounds won't seem to heal

there's just too much that even time cannot erase

爱上了花 part 2

Lavender ( heather )  薰衣草

8. ~ Admiration / salitude ~ 等待爱情 ~

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Red Roses  红玫瑰

9. ~ love / I love you ~ 热恋 / 真心实意 ~

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Sunflower  向日葵

10. ~ homage and devotion ~ 爱慕 / 光辉 / 忠诚 ~

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Rose Bud  玫瑰花蕾

11. ~ beauty and youth / a heart innocent of love ~ 年轻活力 / 单纯的爱

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Snow Rose ( Serissa )  满天星

12. ~ great joy ~ 真心喜欢 ~

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Red Tulip  红郁金香

13. ~ declaration of love ~ 爱的宣意 ~ 

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Violet  紫罗兰

14. ~ I'll always br true ~ 请相信我永恒之美

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Rose ( thornless )  无刺玫瑰

15. ~ love at first sight ~ 一见钟情 ~ 

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Wisteria  紫藤

16. ~ welcome ~ 欢迎 ~

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爱上了花 part 1

Caladium  海芋

1. ~ great joy of delight ~ 爱与尊敬 ~

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Gerbera  非洲菊

2. ~ mystical / excited / determine ~ 神秘 / 兴奋 / 有毅力 ~

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Palm Leaves  棕榈叶

3. ~ victory / success ~ 胜利与成功 ~

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Aster  翠菊

4. ~ symbol of love ~ 追想 / 可靠的爱情 ~

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Bird of Paradise  天堂鸟

5. ~ feeling of joyfulness ~ 自由 / 幸福 / 比翼双飞 ~

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Forget-Me-Not   勿忘我

6. ~ true love / memories ~ 永恒的爱 / 浓情厚意 ~

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Hyacinth (purple)  凤信子（紫）

7. ~ forgive me / sorrowful love ~ 忧郁的爱 ~

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累了，给自己放个假

心累了，就要学会梳理梳理自己的思想

明白心需要什么，不需要什么，怎样保护自己的心不再受伤害

心累了，找个宁静的夜晚，听听音乐。可以直透你心灵

涂鸦几笔，挥洒生活的酸甜苦辣

心累了，看着蓝天白云，吹吹风，让风吹去满腹的委屈

吹去心中的寂寞，吹去淡淡的忧愁

心累了，独自一人还可以躲着大哭一场

以便于卸下压在心中的包袱，笑着面对生活

心累了，自己可以打上背包去游玩

让自己的心在美丽的景色中沉醉，远离尘世的喧闹

心累了，就找个适合自己的方式，给心放个假

让自己活得更轻松，更洒脱，更开心

即使全世界的人都对自己不好，自己也要对自己好一点

学会善待自己，享受生活

累了，给自己放个假

没必要对着自己也要伪装

跑步

生活一直是这样的

好的坏的不好的不坏的不好不坏的事情每天都轮流上演

人类每天都在说话

心里永远有成功的渴望

也永远需要被爱

不知道为什么，我觉得跑步是很孤独的

你保持一种前进的速度，不说话，流汗，喘气，朝着前方努力

与脚下的影子保持一致的动作，

一步一步地，直到筋疲力尽再也跑不动了

虚脱了，也就完成了一趟消耗体力的旅程

某人要是忽然决定要跑的，某人也是忽然就决定不跑了

我认为，某人因为优伤，所以就跑

接着，跑不让某人消耗了悲伤，于是就停止了

我还要继续跑，从围墙内跑到围墙外

至于什么时候要跑得更远，放下一切不管

我想，多跑一阵子再看吧

太多的希望，期望

只会换来更多的失望，绝望

有多少个人会在意擦肩而过的心碎

快乐是找到属于自己的人生不再迷失

原来，人还是要在失去后才发现自己曾经拥有很多

520

            想念一个人是一种幸福。也许你没有很喜欢他，但是有个可以想念的对象也是好的，至少在夜深入静时，不会感觉孤单。
       
        忘记一个人也是一种幸福。忘记曾经的伤害，记着今日的愉快。但对太多人而言，忘记是个好难对付的敌人，一直告诫自己要忘了他，殊不知在提醒自己忘记他的同时，也在想着他。
       
        忘记一个人，因为他让你痛恨自己。在忘记以前，你是想念他的，你多么地想忘记他，可惜你越来越想他，可惜。你只是越来越痛恨自己。
       
        想念与忘记，多么矛盾又靠近的距离。你喜欢她，他才会让你想念与想忘记。但愿你会懂得想念，却不需要忘记。这样会比较快乐，也比较幸福。
       
        人生总是有悲伤的时刻，当你懂得如何令自己开心，活得开朗之后，也许你以为自己不会再为过去而不开心的时候，但是事实并不如此。当你以为自己一辈子都会很开心的时候，也许，有些事情勾起了你的回忆，令你再一次感觉到以前的伤痛。那时候你就会了解，原来有些事情是永远都无法忘记，而在这世界上，亦没有任何东西是绝对的。


        我曾以为已失去重量的心是代表我忘了你，我曾经以为伤口缝合的心是代表我不在乎你。可是为什么失去重量的心显得空荡荡的，为什么伤口已缝合的心还是有伤疤的存在。我现在才发现，当我忘了你的同时，我早已失去了自我。  因为爱你，想你得到幸福，所以学习着放弃，用时间，学习着不再想你，用时间，学习着忘记你说过的话，但最后我还是做不到，可能这样只能证明，我。。。


        总于知道有些事根本不需要解释，是真的疲于解释，抑或是担心越描越黑，还是那所谓的解释既是掩饰。这些都不再重要了。

改变=惧怕

改变使人惧怕

从熟悉走向不熟悉
从安全走进不安全
从熟悉走进需要从新学习和适应的领域
这些思想都会带给人所惧怕的感觉

真正的勇敢并不代表不害怕
而是带着害怕的心情去克服障碍
如果勇敢里并无夹杂害怕
那就不是真正的勇敢了

选择继续向前走不是因为真的很勇敢
而是勇敢中夹着恐惧，没自信
竟然已选了这条路就该勇敢地走完它
到下一个分岔路
再考虑
再做正确的选择

SMILE=)

sometimes people are beautiful 

NOT in looks

NOT in what they say

JUST in what they are

difficulty

is time to stop and let it go if you feel that you are suffering without purpose

it is difficult when faced with a situation you cannot control..
often the simple solution to our heartache is acceptance..

acceptance that the sickening little pang in your heart will never never never leave
acceptance that what was once real doesn't exist anymore

when you look back, you will realise that letting go might be the best decision you have ever made

the process of letting go doesn't happen overnight
but is something that you have to consciously do everyday over and over again

it's time to loosen your grip on an old heartache and make way for what the future brings
then only will you discover that the future holds so much then the past could ever offer

memories

回忆越美，越伤人。。

随着时间，我们身边重要的人越来越少，而留在身边的人越来越重要

we all take different paths in life but no matter where we go

we take a little of each other everywhere^^

清明回高中学校扫扫墓

那里埋葬了我们的青春

my 1st gathering wif f5 fren ~ year 2010

i never thought i will meet up wif my kindergarden fren after so long 

my ist kp fren gathering ~ year 2011

2nd kp fren gathering ~ year 2012

you lite up my world fren ~ year 2010

f6 fren ~ year 2011

outing ~ year 2011

dead meat

we're come to a point where perhaps

we have taken for granted our ability 

to make decisions

and to choose

did I make a good choice?

nothing last forever

enjoy friendship without expectations

friendship is like having siblings, just much less annoying =)

but keep in mind that...

do not expect too much of any relationship

or you will be easily crushed 

the moment the friend spends more time away from you

no relationship should be one sided 

whether it's between spouses, parents and children, sibling, friends or colleagues.

往后的路还很遥远

不管以后彼此向左走向右走

我们依然是好朋友

looking back

理性不是“激情”，也不是“绝望”
而是“成熟了的激情，拒绝绝望”

sometimes the mind is so powerful that it can help you heal

but this requires trust in yourself 

and your ability to focus your thoughts on what you want 

and how you want to feel.

we can always look back once a while.

but we don't need to look too far back or we will depressed ourselve.

life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets

so love the people who treat you right

and forget about the ones who don't

and believe that everything happens for a reason

if you get a chance, take it

if it changes your life, let it.

dun let it destroy u

Don't let your past steal your present..

if you have the courage to fall in love in the first place, 

you must also have the courage to fall out of love when the time come.

Isn't there anything you can't lose no matter what the value is?
It's not about how many times you get married
or how many people you date
It's not about whether it works out with a certain people or not
You just know it's the right person
Even if you break up, it doesn't feel like it's over
It doesn't feel like it will end like that

There is fate.
It's just that people let go of it because it's so hard

Young adults should be told that if they have the courage to fall in love

 then they must have the courage to fall out of love 

and carry on with their lives when the love turns sour

No matter whatever problems or difficulties loom ahead

if you can eat today, enjoy the sunlight, cheer with friends

then enjoy it..

****this would be a useful mantra for those who are feeling depressed

nobody can go back and start a new beginning

but anyone can start today and make a new and blissful ending

      (¯`v´¯) ♪
..... ·.¸.·´ ♫
...¸.·´ ♫
.. ( ♪♪
ღ♥

加油！

我只想从你心中没有遗憾的，平静的离开

虽然说好不要忘记

但所有痕迹依然褪到一个无色的角落

只剩一束倒吊的勿忘我

嘲笑着所有藉口

我不管你是谁

我只知道他原本就是我心爱的人

虽然多想回到从前那些有你有我的日子

即时心里有多么的不甘也无法改变任何事情

分手的理由是假的

但分手是真的。。

对于那些无法回头的曾经

其实早就该结束了

那些曾经存在的证据已经不需要了

一般上人们会选择继续等下去

等得愈久反而愈不想放弃等待

再喜欢也要忍住

决定放弃你的那一刻我哭了

我的眼泪证明了我是真的很爱你

我们之间变得有多礼貌，多客气

就变得有多陌生

想不到有一天

连你也来提醒我这份借来的幸福早已结束了

有些梦想，是要等别的梦想破灭后才会出现的

如果梦想真的破灭了，就鼓起勇气再去找下一个梦想吧

虽然会很累，但人生原本就是这样

路是大地一道难愈的伤痕

因此，人生每一步都是隐隐的痛

适时抒发自己的情绪，照顾好自己，才有能力照顾别人

放慢脚步

相信会往好的状况更加靠近 =）

现在，当下

不是人人都能活得低调

可以低调的基础是随时都能高调

被遗忘的快乐在刹那间崩溃

多想回到从前那无忧的童年

从不在挫折面前轻易掉泪

假装自己很坚强很不在乎

其实所谓的梦想早已渐渐被现实模糊

剩下的只是一片片破碎的心

发现生活上悲伤胜过一切

希望在一起的小孩都要幸福

把快乐带回来这世界

我不求不平凡，但求真真实实，认认真真，放在手里珍惜着

很珍惜现在所拥有的一切，也珍惜没有拥有的一切

why ppl shout

why do we shout in anger? 

why do people shout at each other when they are upset?

we shout because we lose our calm. But why shout when the other person is just next to you?

Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?

when two people are angry with each other

their heart distance

to cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other

the angrier they are

the louder they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance

what happen when two people fall in love?

they don't shout at each other but talk softly

why?

because their heart are very close

the distance between them is small

when they love each other even more? what happen?

they do not speak

they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love

finally they do not even need to whisper

they only look at each other, that's all

~that is how close two people are when they love each other~